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Introduction to Love Notes. ..........................................iii
Instructor Tips. ..............................................................xi
Love Notes Video and Resource Guide. ........................xv
Lesson 1: Relationships Today..................................1
Relationships Today
Defining a Vision
Choosing Reds or Greens?
Introduction to the Trusted Adult Connection
Activities
Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself....................................23
Good Relationships Start with You
Understanding My Personality Style
Examining Family Origin
Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future................43
What’s Important?
The Power of Expectations
Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships...57
Relationship Pyramid
The Chemistry of Attraction
Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships........83
Smart or Not-So-Smart?
Seven Principles of Smart Relationships
Seven Questions to Ask
Three Sides of Love
Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship?. ..............113
How Can You Tell?
Having Fun—It’s Important!
Breaking Up
Lesson 7: Dangerous Love. ....................................133
Early Warnings and Red Flags
Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs
of Greatest Danger
Sexual Assault and Consent
Sex Trafficking—Prevention
Draw the Line of Respect
Lesson8:Decide,Don’tSlide!Pathways&Sequences
Towards Success....................................167
The High Costs of Sliding
A Low-Risk Deciding Approach
Making Decisions
Pathways and Sequences Towards Success
Lesson 9: Communication and Healthy
Relationships. ........................................201
Communication Patterns Learned in Family
Patterns that Harm Relationships
Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs
The Speaker Listener Technique—When
Talking is Difficult
Relationships in the Digital Age
Lesson 10: Communication Challenges
and More Skills ...................................235
Complain and Raise Issues Effectively
Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button?
A Problem-Solving Model
A Brief Review
Constantly Connected—For Better or Worse
Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex............................271
Let’s Talk About Sex
What is Intimacy, Actually?
Am I Ready?
Risks of Sliding into Sex—Benefits of Deciding
Navigating Relationships in the Digital Age
Are We on the Same Page?
Drawing Intimacy Lines and Pacing
Lesson 12: Let’s Plan for Choices .........................317
Test Your Sex Smarts
STIs and HIV Are for Real
Planning for Choices
A Discussion: Internet Porn
Pressure Situations &Assertiveness Skills
Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child .............375
Child Looking for a Family
What About Fathers?
Child Speak: Bright Futures
Decisions About Living Together
Planning for Success—Wrap-Up
Appendix.....................................................................437
Supplemental Activities: Designing a Personal
Policy Cyberbullying
Background &Research on Screen Time
Film Guide for Antwone Fisher
Acknowledgements
About the Author
Colored Activity Cards
Table of Contents
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