Love Notes is all about healthy relationships. And healthy relationships start with you. Love Notes offers ways
to learn more about yourself and to identify what’s important to you. Although much of the focus is on
romantic relationships, Love Notes builds skills that are important for all kinds of relationships—with family,
friends and at school or work. Importantly, the knowledge and skills in this program will help you make
informed sexual decisions that are right for you.
This is your journal. It will give you the opportunity to practice new skills and apply what you are learning to
choices in your own life, both now and in the future. Good luck on this journey, which is certain to increase
your relationship smarts in your personal and work life!
Table of Contents
My Relationship Vision. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Myself—My Future. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2
Baggage from the Past . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
What’s Important to Me? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
My Expectations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Scale of Maturity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Becoming a Person of Character. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Taking Your Time. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
The Chemistry of Attraction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14
Seven Questions to Ask .......................15
Real Love—Keeping it Strong. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Is It a Healthy Relationship? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
Draw the Line of Respect. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Dating App. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
Decide, Don’t Slide!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
Making Decisions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25
Pathways &Sequences Towards Success. . . . . . . . 27
Communication Patterns—What to Take,
What to Change. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28
Poor Communication—
Relationship Wreckers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30
Relationship Quiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
Time Outs: Be Smart. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32
Speaker Listener Log. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33
Gripes and Complaints—
Be Heard, Not Ignored. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34
Arguments—What’s Really Going On?. . . . . . . . . . 35
My Hidden Issues. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36
Problem-Solving &Reflections . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
Let’s Talk About Sex. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38
Intimacy—It’s More than a Physical Thing. . . . . . 39
How Connected? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40
Getting on the Same Page. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41
Pacing Relationships. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42
My Personal Plan. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44
A Child’s Wish List . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46
Being a Good Father Means. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47
Bright Futures for Babies ... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48
Child Speak. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49
Success Planning. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50
Sex and Sliding. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56
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to learn more about yourself and to identify what’s important to you. Although much of the focus is on
romantic relationships, Love Notes builds skills that are important for all kinds of relationships—with family,
friends and at school or work. Importantly, the knowledge and skills in this program will help you make
informed sexual decisions that are right for you.
This is your journal. It will give you the opportunity to practice new skills and apply what you are learning to
choices in your own life, both now and in the future. Good luck on this journey, which is certain to increase
your relationship smarts in your personal and work life!
Table of Contents
My Relationship Vision. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Myself—My Future. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2
Baggage from the Past . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
What’s Important to Me? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
My Expectations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Scale of Maturity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Becoming a Person of Character. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Taking Your Time. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
The Chemistry of Attraction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14
Seven Questions to Ask .......................15
Real Love—Keeping it Strong. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Is It a Healthy Relationship? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
Draw the Line of Respect. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Dating App. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
Decide, Don’t Slide!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
Making Decisions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25
Pathways &Sequences Towards Success. . . . . . . . 27
Communication Patterns—What to Take,
What to Change. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28
Poor Communication—
Relationship Wreckers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30
Relationship Quiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31
Time Outs: Be Smart. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32
Speaker Listener Log. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33
Gripes and Complaints—
Be Heard, Not Ignored. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34
Arguments—What’s Really Going On?. . . . . . . . . . 35
My Hidden Issues. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36
Problem-Solving &Reflections . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
Let’s Talk About Sex. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38
Intimacy—It’s More than a Physical Thing. . . . . . 39
How Connected? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40
Getting on the Same Page. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41
Pacing Relationships. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42
My Personal Plan. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44
A Child’s Wish List . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46
Being a Good Father Means. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47
Bright Futures for Babies ... . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48
Child Speak. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49
Success Planning. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50
Sex and Sliding. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56
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