Copyright 2018 Marline E. Pearson ❖ And, while this video involved a heterosexual couple, it’s just as easy for LGBTQ couples not to be on the same page and misinterpret each other’s motivations and expectations. Ask teens what lines they jotted down. Some of the lines that likely will come up are: … guys on the block… they just want relations. They don’t want relationships… … He says if you’d really loved him, you would give it up… … That’s just a line guys use to get ya stuff… See, he’ll tell you all kind of things to get in your pants, yeah… … Think before you let it go… Listen to their comments and continue the discussion: ❖ Let’s talk about that line, “Think before you let it go.” How many people even talk to see if they’re on the same page before “they let it go”? What do you see in the movies? How many talk about what sex means to them? Or, even the risks of pregnancy or STDs? Is the singer’s message one you’d give your little sister or cousin? ❖ Remember the woman in the song saying to the girl, “Maybe she can hear it coming from me?” Where do most teens—guys and girls, straight or LGBTQ—get their advice about sex? What shapes teens’ attitudes and behaviors the most? Listen to responses. ❖ Does it make a difference if a teenager has a parent or trusted adult to talk to about sex and not just the health risks, but emotional ones as well? And about relationships about love? ❖ And, what if more people talked about the benefits—the positives—that come from one enjoying teen relationships without adding sex? ❖ One national survey found nearly 9 in 10 teens say it would be easier to delay sex and avoid teen pregnancy if they were able to have honest, open conversations with their parents.1 ❖ The same survey also found that 87% of teens agreed that it is important for teens to be given a strong message that they should not have sex until they are at least out of high school. Let’s talk about a person deciding to change course: ❖ At one point, the female singer says, “Once you’ve given it away, you’ll never get it back.” ❖ People sometimes do things they wish they hadn’t and want to do things differently in the future. ❖ Anyone, male or female, who’s had sex can decide to stop. They can decide to leave sex out of their next relationships. LESSON 10 • 191
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