Copyright 2018 Marline E. Pearson Processing the activity: Okay, look at your charts first and then let’s answer these questions. (PP) Read the questions below. Pause for their responses (yes or no). 1. Would you say they have a “best friends” relationship? • Do they share basic values? • Do they enjoy doing many things together? • Do they enjoy talking to each other—sharing thoughts and ideas? 2. How emotionally healthy is their relationship? • Is it trusting and secure? • Are their feelings for each other mutual? • Is it mostly physical or is the attraction on many levels? 3. Do they each have a clear sense of identity (i.e., know who they are)? • Do you think they both have a lot more growing up to do? • Are they a good match for a long-term relationship? 4. Do you think it is a good idea for them to have sex? • Is it likely one or both of them could have regrets down the road? • Is it likely that one or the other may end up cheating? • What if Jessie gets pregnant? Are they in a place to get married, make a home, and provide what a child needs? • Do you think they have a good foundation for a successful future together? To conclude this section: ❖ I guess you could say Jessie and Ben don’t have much true intimacy. ❖ True intimacy is linking hearts and souls and it’s built slowly over time. ❖ It takes time and maturity to know who you are, what you want, and how to build a healthy relationship. ❖ Thinking about what true intimacy is and what you want deepening levels of physical intimacy to mean might be useful to help you make important relationship and sexual decisions. 196 • LESSON 10
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