Lesson 6 125 Copyright 2018 Marline E. Pearson (PP) Optional, but fun: Ask volunteers to identify a breakup song. They can bring in one to play in future sessions. Ask them to say which lines in the song are most important. (PP) Consider playing the song or music video, Too Good at Goodbyes, by Sam Smith, and discuss the messages (found on YouTube and linked in PowerPoint slide). Ask if it’s good to close oneself up after a disappointment. Ask if taking one’s time (like the message of the relationship pyramid and love chemicals activities) might better help someone discover whether a person is worthy of one’s love. Might some heartbreaks be avoided by taking things more slowly? Another contemporary song to consider playing is Lady Gaga’s Million Reasons (YouTube and hyperlinked in PP). Discuss her reasons for breaking up. Some older songs: Carrie Underwood, Before He Cheats Usher, Burn Fort Minor, Where’d You Go Avril Lavigne, Don’t Tell Me Chris Brown, Say Goodbye Linkin Park, In the End Madonna, Hung Up Taylor Swift, Should Have Said No Nickelback, Should Have Listened. (PP) Have participants choose one. 1. Ask your TA to read the breakup handouts (Resources 6d and 6e). Have them ask their TA to remember back to when they were younger. Which tips would have been helpful to them or a friend back then? 2. Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships handout (Resource 6c, pg. 126). Have participants ask their trusted adult to read the three contrasting questions on the handout and determine if the questions make good sense for analyzing healthy or unhealthy relationships. Ask if they have other ideas of how to judge a healthy relationship. Activity: Breakup Songs Trusted Adult Connection