76 • LESSON 5
Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson
5.1 How Can You Tell?
This section offers teens a clear, three-question
framework to determine whether a relationship is
healthy or unhealthy. A fun sculpting activity based
on these three questions will help participants explore more deeply what a healthy relationship is and
what it is not. Finally, participants use a self-assessment exercise to analyze a relationship. (PP)
Begin this section with these points:
❖ Today we’ll explore the differences between healthy and unhealthy
relationships more deeply.
❖ Sometimes the differences may not be clear. If you haven’t seen many
good models of healthy relationships, it would be hard to know if it is
healthy or unhealthy.
❖ So, how can one tell if a relationship is healthy and worth staying in?
❖ There are three questions you can ask to determine if a relationship is
healthy. The three questions are simple, but important, and have to be
answered honestly. If you do, you will know if the relationship is healthy or
not. These questions can apply to romantic relationships and friendships.
(PP) Use the PowerPoint slides or write the following on a flip chart/board:
How Does It Feel? 3 Questions to Ask
UNHEALTHY HEALTHY
Conditional? or Unconditional?
Controlling? Disrespectful? or Equal, Respectful, and Supportive?
Mostly Status, Sex, Material stuff? or Attraction on Many Levels?
• Sculpting materials: Play-Doh, pipe cleaners,
craft sticks (Popsicle sticks), toothpicks, spice
drops or mini marshmallows, sturdy paper
plates
• Music/equipment to play
• Resource 5a: Six Types of Relationships Activity
Cards
• Journal: Is It a Healthy Relationship? (pg. 12–13)
35 minutes
Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson
5.1 How Can You Tell?
This section offers teens a clear, three-question
framework to determine whether a relationship is
healthy or unhealthy. A fun sculpting activity based
on these three questions will help participants explore more deeply what a healthy relationship is and
what it is not. Finally, participants use a self-assessment exercise to analyze a relationship. (PP)
Begin this section with these points:
❖ Today we’ll explore the differences between healthy and unhealthy
relationships more deeply.
❖ Sometimes the differences may not be clear. If you haven’t seen many
good models of healthy relationships, it would be hard to know if it is
healthy or unhealthy.
❖ So, how can one tell if a relationship is healthy and worth staying in?
❖ There are three questions you can ask to determine if a relationship is
healthy. The three questions are simple, but important, and have to be
answered honestly. If you do, you will know if the relationship is healthy or
not. These questions can apply to romantic relationships and friendships.
(PP) Use the PowerPoint slides or write the following on a flip chart/board:
How Does It Feel? 3 Questions to Ask
UNHEALTHY HEALTHY
Conditional? or Unconditional?
Controlling? Disrespectful? or Equal, Respectful, and Supportive?
Mostly Status, Sex, Material stuff? or Attraction on Many Levels?
• Sculpting materials: Play-Doh, pipe cleaners,
craft sticks (Popsicle sticks), toothpicks, spice
drops or mini marshmallows, sturdy paper
plates
• Music/equipment to play
• Resource 5a: Six Types of Relationships Activity
Cards
• Journal: Is It a Healthy Relationship? (pg. 12–13)
35 minutes
