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Copyright 2018 Marline E. Pearson
Introduction to Love Notes. ............................................v
Instructor Tips. ..............................................................xi
Video and Resource Guide. ...........................................xv
Lesson 1: Relationships Today..................................1
• Relationships Today
• Defining a Vision
• Choosing Reds or Greens?
• Film Opportunity
• Trusted Adult Connection
Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself....................................23
• Good Relationships Start with You
• Understanding My Personality Style
• Examining Family of Origin
Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future................45
• What’s Important?
• The Power of Expectations
• Myself—My Future
Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships....61
• Relationship Pyramid
• The Chemistry of Attraction
Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships........83
• Smart or Not-So-Smart?
• Seven Principles of Smart Relationships
• Seven Questions to Ask
• Three Sides of Love
Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship?. ..............105
• How Can You Tell?
• Having Fun—It’s Important!
• Breaking Up
Lesson 7: Dangerous Love. ....................................125
• Early Warnings and Red Flags
• Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs
of Greatest Danger
• Sexual Assault
• Dangerous Love: Impact on Children
• Draw the Line of Respect
Lesson 8: Decide, Don’t Slide! The Low-Risk
Approach to Relationships. .........................155
• The High Costs of Sliding
• The Success Sequence
• The Low-Risk Deciding Approach
• Brief Review
• Making Decisions
Lesson 9: What’s Communication Got to
Do With It?......................................................179
• What’s Communication Got to Do with It?
• Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs
• The Speaker Listener Technique—When
Talking is Difficult
Lesson 10: Communication Challenges and
More Skills ....................................................207
• Communication Patterns Learned in Family
• Complain and Raise Issues Effectively
• Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button?
• A Problem-Solving Model
• A Brief Review
Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex............................229
• Sex and Sliding
• Six Parts of Intimacy
• Understanding Sexual Regrets
• Are We on the Same Page?
• Risky Situations for Sex
• Set Your Personal Line
Lesson 12: Pregnancy, STIs and HIV...................261
• Test Your Knowledge About Sex, Pregnancy,
and STIs/HIV
• STIs and HIV Are for Real
• Alcohol and Drugs—Increasing the Risks
• Pressure Situations and Assertiveness Skills
• My Personal Plan
Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child .............303
• Child Looking for a Family
• What about Fathers?
• What the Music Says
• Child Speak: Brighter Futures
• Planning for Success
• Review, Make Plans, Wrap Up
Appendix.....................................................................345
• Supplemental Appendix Lesson: Technology
and Social Media
• In-depth Film Guide for Antwone Fisher
• About the Author
Colored Activity Cards
Table of Contents
Copyright 2018 Marline E. Pearson
Introduction to Love Notes. ............................................v
Instructor Tips. ..............................................................xi
Video and Resource Guide. ...........................................xv
Lesson 1: Relationships Today..................................1
• Relationships Today
• Defining a Vision
• Choosing Reds or Greens?
• Film Opportunity
• Trusted Adult Connection
Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself....................................23
• Good Relationships Start with You
• Understanding My Personality Style
• Examining Family of Origin
Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future................45
• What’s Important?
• The Power of Expectations
• Myself—My Future
Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships....61
• Relationship Pyramid
• The Chemistry of Attraction
Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships........83
• Smart or Not-So-Smart?
• Seven Principles of Smart Relationships
• Seven Questions to Ask
• Three Sides of Love
Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship?. ..............105
• How Can You Tell?
• Having Fun—It’s Important!
• Breaking Up
Lesson 7: Dangerous Love. ....................................125
• Early Warnings and Red Flags
• Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs
of Greatest Danger
• Sexual Assault
• Dangerous Love: Impact on Children
• Draw the Line of Respect
Lesson 8: Decide, Don’t Slide! The Low-Risk
Approach to Relationships. .........................155
• The High Costs of Sliding
• The Success Sequence
• The Low-Risk Deciding Approach
• Brief Review
• Making Decisions
Lesson 9: What’s Communication Got to
Do With It?......................................................179
• What’s Communication Got to Do with It?
• Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs
• The Speaker Listener Technique—When
Talking is Difficult
Lesson 10: Communication Challenges and
More Skills ....................................................207
• Communication Patterns Learned in Family
• Complain and Raise Issues Effectively
• Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button?
• A Problem-Solving Model
• A Brief Review
Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex............................229
• Sex and Sliding
• Six Parts of Intimacy
• Understanding Sexual Regrets
• Are We on the Same Page?
• Risky Situations for Sex
• Set Your Personal Line
Lesson 12: Pregnancy, STIs and HIV...................261
• Test Your Knowledge About Sex, Pregnancy,
and STIs/HIV
• STIs and HIV Are for Real
• Alcohol and Drugs—Increasing the Risks
• Pressure Situations and Assertiveness Skills
• My Personal Plan
Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child .............303
• Child Looking for a Family
• What about Fathers?
• What the Music Says
• Child Speak: Brighter Futures
• Planning for Success
• Review, Make Plans, Wrap Up
Appendix.....................................................................345
• Supplemental Appendix Lesson: Technology
and Social Media
• In-depth Film Guide for Antwone Fisher
• About the Author
Colored Activity Cards
Table of Contents
