iii Copyright 2018 Marline E. Pearson Introduction to Love Notes. ............................................v Instructor Tips. ..............................................................xi Video and Resource Guide. ...........................................xv Lesson 1: Relationships Today..................................1 • Relationships Today • Defining a Vision • Choosing Reds or Greens? • Film Opportunity • Trusted Adult Connection Lesson 2: Knowing Yourself....................................23 • Good Relationships Start with You • Understanding My Personality Style • Examining Family of Origin Lesson 3: My Expectations—My Future................45 • What’s Important? • The Power of Expectations • Myself—My Future Lesson 4: Attractions and Starting Relationships....61 • Relationship Pyramid • The Chemistry of Attraction Lesson 5: Principles of Smart Relationships........83 • Smart or Not-So-Smart? • Seven Principles of Smart Relationships • Seven Questions to Ask • Three Sides of Love Lesson 6: Is It a Healthy Relationship?. ..............105 • How Can You Tell? • Having Fun—It’s Important! • Breaking Up Lesson 7: Dangerous Love. ....................................125 • Early Warnings and Red Flags • Violence: Why it Happens, What Helps, Signs of Greatest Danger • Sexual Assault • Dangerous Love: Impact on Children • Draw the Line of Respect Lesson 8: Decide, Don’t Slide! The Low-Risk Approach to Relationships. .........................155 • The High Costs of Sliding • The Success Sequence • The Low-Risk Deciding Approach • Brief Review • Making Decisions Lesson 9: What’s Communication Got to Do With It?......................................................179 • What’s Communication Got to Do with It? • Angry Brains and the Power of Time Outs • The Speaker Listener Technique—When Talking is Difficult Lesson 10: Communication Challenges and More Skills ....................................................207 • Communication Patterns Learned in Family • Complain and Raise Issues Effectively • Hidden Issues: What Pushes Your Button? • A Problem-Solving Model • A Brief Review Lesson 11: Let’s Talk About Sex............................229 • Sex and Sliding • Six Parts of Intimacy • Understanding Sexual Regrets • Are We on the Same Page? • Risky Situations for Sex • Set Your Personal Line Lesson 12: Pregnancy, STIs and HIV...................261 • Test Your Knowledge About Sex, Pregnancy, and STIs/HIV • STIs and HIV Are for Real • Alcohol and Drugs—Increasing the Risks • Pressure Situations and Assertiveness Skills • My Personal Plan Lesson 13: Through the Eyes of a Child .............303 • Child Looking for a Family • What about Fathers? • What the Music Says • Child Speak: Brighter Futures • Planning for Success • Review, Make Plans, Wrap Up Appendix.....................................................................345 • Supplemental Appendix Lesson: Technology and Social Media • In-depth Film Guide for Antwone Fisher • About the Author Colored Activity Cards Table of Contents