Lesson 6 85 Copyright 2020 Marline E. Pearson ❖ (PP) Before you use what you’ve learned to assess an actual relationship, let’s underscore a central point: • Feeling safe in a relationship is the ultimate test of a healthy relationship. ❖ Physical Safety—If there is any aggression or fear of aggression, it’s not healthy, period. ❖ Emotional Safety—This kind of safety comes from feeling safe to say what’s on your mind and in your heart—to be accepted for the real you. ❖ Trust and Commitment Safety means knowing your partner will be there for you— they’ve got your back and are reliable. ❖ (PP) Please turn to workbook pgs. 19–20. You will now use the three-question framework to assess a relationship. ❖ You will need to focus on a specific relationship (past or present—yours or one of someone you know well). ❖ I will read aloud each set of contrasting statements and pause for you to put an “X” somewhere along the scale between unhealthy (red) and healthy (green). Ask yourself if it falls more on the healthy or unhealthy side. ❖ Let’s begin with the first set. Read the Conditional and Unconditional statements and pause for a few seconds for the youth to mark their “X.” Repeat for the other two scales on pg. 20. Finally, ask them to take a minute or two to jot down three behaviors important to them personally. Activity: Assessing Relationships