I s
I
t
C ond
i
i
?
You
worry
about
not
being
good
enough.
Your
partner
makes
you
feel
little.
You
feel
like
you
have
to have
a
lot
of money
or
be
or
look
a certain
way
in order
to keep
his
or
her attention
or
love.
You
worry
a
lot
about
being
dumped.
You
can’t
be
the
real
you.
You
have
to wear
a mask.
There
is little
trust
or security.
C ontroll
i
or
D
i
c tful
?
One
partner
needs
to
be
the
boss.
He
or
she ridicules
the
words
and
actions
of
the
other
and
shows
little
interest
in
his
or
her
feelings.
The controlled
person
worries
about
upsetting
his
or
her partner
and
often
avoids
saying
or doing
things.
The
controller
does
not support
his
or
her partner
and,
in
fact,
often
tries
to
hold
him
or
her
back.
One
partner
thinks
he
or
she
is
entitled
to express
his
or
her
anger
in
any
way
he
or
she chooses.
M ostly
S exual
or
M ater
i
?
This relationship
is based
almost
exclusively
on
sex.
Or,
it
is
about
the material
things
a person
can
get
out
of
this
relationship
or
the
status
he
or
she
feels
by
being
with
him
or
her. Without
this,
there
would
not
be much
there.
There
is
not
a
lot
of
fun
or deeper
getting
to know
each
other.
U
n
c ond
i
i
?
You
both
feel appreciated
for
who
you
really
are.
You
don’t
have
to pretend
or
play
games.
You
do
not
have
to
be perfect.
You
can
tell
each
other
about
behaviors
in
each
other
that
you
don’t
li
You
support
each
other
in making
changes
that
you
each
decide
to work
on.
You
each
show
you genuinely
care
about
the other.
E qual
,R espe
c tful
,and
S upport
i
?
Both
partners
treat
each
other
well.
Neither
dominates
or
consistently
gives
in.
Both
partners
feel respected.
Each
partner
feels
his
or
her thoughts,
feelings,
and
needs
are important
to
the
other.
They
know
differences
and disagreements
are
inevitable
in relationships
and
do
not
put
each
other
down
when
these
occur.
Both
partners
feel encouraged
by
the
other
to develop
and
better him/herself.
A ttra
c
t
i
on
M
any
L evels
?
This
couple
has chemistry,
but
they
also
enjoy
talking
and
getting
to know
each
other.
They
have
fun
doing
things
together.
They
do things
based
on shared
interests
and
are
open
to trying
new
activities
that
the
other
one
values.
They
balance
time
together,
apart,
and
with
friends.
This relationship
is based
on
a
lot
more
than
looks,
status,
or material
things.
Trusted
Adult
Wisdom:
Do
these
three
questions
reveal
whether
a relationship
is healthy
or unhealthy?
Any
other
wisdom
to
offer
your
teen
about
healthy
relationships? ...............................................................................................................................
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