Lesson 6 127
Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson
Offer these words of wisdom to survive a breakup when you are the one being dumped:
❖ First, it’s important to have a reality check—most people will have heartbreaks. Very
few people have the luck of not experiencing it at some point. Perhaps most important in
handling a broken heart are the messages you give yourself.
❖ It is natural to feel really hurt. Go ahead and cry. Crying is a great way to get your
emotions out. It’s normal to feel miserable when someone you like breaks up with you.
❖ It’s important to find a wise person you can trust to talk to, like a parent, an aunt, an
older sibling, or a cousin. Pick a good shoulder to lean on—not a friend who encourages
drama or revenge.
(PP) Offer participants these basic tips for dealing with a broken
heart and disappointment. It’s important. Some young people go
through a serious emotional spiral down—depression and even
suicide—after a breakup.
❖ Face reality, and don’t be obsessed with winning this person back. You can’t force a
relationship. It sacrifices your dignity to beg for a relationship, act desperate, or try to chase
the person. And you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you
and likes you for who you are.
❖ Don’t blame yourself. There are lots and lots of reasons why relationships end. Make a
list of your positive qualities. Work to make the changes you want. Ultimately, you want a
relationship with someone who admires you, recognizes your qualities, is as crazy about you
as you are about them, and accepts you as you truly are. Also, make a list of what you want
in a partner. What qualities are you looking for, and what’s important? What can you learn
from this relationship?
❖ Stay away from the revenge game. Forget about getting even or spreading rumors. It
might be tempting, but it’s immature, and it can keep you from moving on after a breakup.
Surviving a Breakup
Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson
Offer these words of wisdom to survive a breakup when you are the one being dumped:
❖ First, it’s important to have a reality check—most people will have heartbreaks. Very
few people have the luck of not experiencing it at some point. Perhaps most important in
handling a broken heart are the messages you give yourself.
❖ It is natural to feel really hurt. Go ahead and cry. Crying is a great way to get your
emotions out. It’s normal to feel miserable when someone you like breaks up with you.
❖ It’s important to find a wise person you can trust to talk to, like a parent, an aunt, an
older sibling, or a cousin. Pick a good shoulder to lean on—not a friend who encourages
drama or revenge.
(PP) Offer participants these basic tips for dealing with a broken
heart and disappointment. It’s important. Some young people go
through a serious emotional spiral down—depression and even
suicide—after a breakup.
❖ Face reality, and don’t be obsessed with winning this person back. You can’t force a
relationship. It sacrifices your dignity to beg for a relationship, act desperate, or try to chase
the person. And you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you
and likes you for who you are.
❖ Don’t blame yourself. There are lots and lots of reasons why relationships end. Make a
list of your positive qualities. Work to make the changes you want. Ultimately, you want a
relationship with someone who admires you, recognizes your qualities, is as crazy about you
as you are about them, and accepts you as you truly are. Also, make a list of what you want
in a partner. What qualities are you looking for, and what’s important? What can you learn
from this relationship?
❖ Stay away from the revenge game. Forget about getting even or spreading rumors. It
might be tempting, but it’s immature, and it can keep you from moving on after a breakup.
Surviving a Breakup
