29 Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson 7. Disagreements or conflicts between parents or adults: l Were never heard in my home. They were swept under the rug peace at any cost. l Came up regularly, but my parent(s) usually dealt with them pretty well, even when one got angry. l This was the constant backdrop of my life. Parents or adults in my home just screamed and never solved anything. 8. On apologizing and admitting wrongdoing: l No one in my family took responsibility or apologized. Others were always blamed. l We were encouraged to admit when we were wrong and apologize. 9. In my family: l Members tended to jump to conclusions and judged each other in the most negative light. l Members gave each other the benefit of the doubt. Go back over these questions and star 3 or 4 answers you feel are most important for healthy families. Take a moment to jot down some of the family patterns you want for your future and any you want to avoid. Why is this important for you (and a child you might have now or someday)? When it comes to raising a child together, it’s important to talk about the patterns each partner grew up with. Discuss and decide together what you want for your family. Sample Do Not Distribute communication patterns—what to take, what to change