Lesson 6: RESOURCE 6C 131
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1. Face reality, and don’t be obsessed with winning this person back. You can’t force a
relationship. It sacrifices your dignity to beg for a relationship, act desperate, or try to chase
the person. And you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you
and likes you for who you are.
2. Don’t blame yourself. There are lots and lots of reasons why relationships end. Make a
list of your positive qualities. Work to make the changes you want. Ultimately, you want a
relationship with someone who admires you, recognizes your qualities, is as crazy about
you as you are about them, and accepts you as you truly are. Also, make a list of what you
want in a partner. What qualities are you looking for, and what’s important? What can you
learn from this relationship?
3. Stay away from the revenge game. Forget about getting even or spreading rumors. It might
be tempting, but it’s immature, and it can keep you from moving on after a breakup.
4. Get perspective. Most people go through more than one romance. This is a normal part of
life. From a relationship that ends, you can grow wiser and more insightful about yourself,
what you are looking for, and how relationships should be. Talking with a caring adult can
give you some needed perspective.
5. Beware of rebounding. Don’t hop into another
relationship right away to make your ex jealous
or to make yourself feel better. This is not a
good idea at all. Give yourself time.
6. Get Busy. When you are out of tears,
get busy and get outside. Do things
with friends or family. Go biking,
swimming, jogging, skating, kick a ball,
shoot baskets, or take walks. Make it a
point to do something physical every day.
Trusted Adult: Please discuss these with your
young person. Add any wisdom or stories you have.
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Surviving a Breakup
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