Lesson 6: RESOURCE 6C 131 Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson 1. Face reality, and don’t be obsessed with winning this person back. You can’t force a relationship. It sacrifices your dignity to beg for a relationship, act desperate, or try to chase the person. And you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you and likes you for who you are. 2. Don’t blame yourself. There are lots and lots of reasons why relationships end. Make a list of your positive qualities. Work to make the changes you want. Ultimately, you want a relationship with someone who admires you, recognizes your qualities, is as crazy about you as you are about them, and accepts you as you truly are. Also, make a list of what you want in a partner. What qualities are you looking for, and what’s important? What can you learn from this relationship? 3. Stay away from the revenge game. Forget about getting even or spreading rumors. It might be tempting, but it’s immature, and it can keep you from moving on after a breakup. 4. Get perspective. Most people go through more than one romance. This is a normal part of life. From a relationship that ends, you can grow wiser and more insightful about yourself, what you are looking for, and how relationships should be. Talking with a caring adult can give you some needed perspective. 5. Beware of rebounding. Don’t hop into another relationship right away to make your ex jealous or to make yourself feel better. This is not a good idea at all. Give yourself time. 6. Get Busy. When you are out of tears, get busy and get outside. Do things with friends or family. Go biking, swimming, jogging, skating, kick a ball, shoot baskets, or take walks. Make it a point to do something physical every day. Trusted Adult: Please discuss these with your young person. Add any wisdom or stories you have. Signature: _________________________________ Surviving a Breakup