14 Copyright 2023 Marline E. Pearson The Chemistry of Attraction When you’re attracted to someone, the feelings can be exciting and intense—you feel fabulous. A real change in brain chemistry is happening to produce those feelings. Tip: Enjoy the great feelings! But don’t read too much into them just yet. It could be the start of a great relationship, but it could be that you’re falling for someone who’s just not right for you or who may have serious problems. Focus on getting to know each other and on having fun. Caution: From 3 to 6 to 9 months, the "love chemicals" can keep you from seeing clearly and make it easy to slide into risky relationships. Distribute What You Might Not Be Seeing at First: • Have no common interests • Controlling angry abusive • Just too different • Abuses drugs or alcohol • Cheats won’t stay faithful • Not committed to school/work • Very negative & moody • Irresponsible with money • Lies can’t be trusted uses people • In trouble with the law • Fake changes just to please others • Not committed to child And don’t forget to look in the mirror! Do you have any issues or problem behaviors that you can work on to have healthy relationships in your life? Remember 3 – 6 – 9 months! Go slow—go smart, don’t slide. Sample Do Not the chemistry of attraction